I am also one of the Co Founders of Laguna Niguel Connectors which was started in the deep depth of the recession. I have spoken to many transition networks including CafeNet, Execunet, and Challenger Networking Groups on many occasions.
My best read blog remains Networking Tips for college students and young people who hate to network. I have always had a strong bond with young people.
I like people. That is why I love to network. I hate to network with people who don’t have a clue about networking. I still like you though.
This is for all those lost souls who really don’t understand the value of a network and how difficult it is to build one. The time, the determination, the time, the resolve. Yes when you want to go home you don’t. When you don’t want to sleep a little later you don’t. When you don’t want to drive that far you do. You see building a network takes as much time as building a business. It has value and is not free. I built it and earned it. It is not yours.
My network is mine. All mine and I get to choose who to share it with. Not you.
Guess what. The fact that we are connected on Linkedin with 150 million other people doesn’t give us a compelling bond as I have written in the past. In many ways, my time is more valuable than yours because my network is larger and more connected because it is not comprised of strangers.
If I have never met you don’t ask me for an introduction to somebody on Linkedin.
Even I have met you it doesn’t give you a pass to GO.
Please don’t ask me to e mail my data base to sell you stuff. I don’t sell to my network.
Before you ask people to help you, help them. It’s pretty easy.
If I have never worked with you don’t ask me for a recommendation on Linkedin. Powerful Networks aren’t facades. They are relationships. Networking isn’t multilevel marketing. References are powerful because you provide a personal commitment through them. You don’t give them to strangers.
The stronger your network, the more other people will want it. It is easier for people to try to use mine or yours than to build their own.
There is no doubt that your network can be a very powerful force in your life. It will be much more powerful if you build your own versus using others. Nobody likes to be used.
I’d rather teach people how to fish versus doing their fishing for them. That is better for the lost networking souls in the end. They may not get it until they get the networking light bulb moment. It will probably not come from asking but from helping somebody.
I am always amazed how people are on the moon with what they think they are entitled to because we are connected in a digital way. You would think people would get smarter as social media matures. However it is not always the case. You see behavioral etiquette applies to social networks as well. The platforms may run on software but relationships are personal interactions. We are not data bases but people in networking.
Maybe that is why Greta Garbo in the end said. “I just want to be alone.”
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Here is one on the Power of Networking. Enjoy.